Tuesday, October 09, 2007

Sometimes ...

Sometimes people say things they don't mean.
I do it all the time. I want to say one thing, and it comes out wrong. Or, I want to convey a message and so I try to soften the blow by making it jokey.
Sometimes my messages aren't taken as they are intended.
And sometimes I take things the wrong way.
This happened to me a little more than a week ago. Someone made a comment about babies and weddings. And the topic of breastfeeding came into the mix. I took it the wrong way. I was really hurt by it. And that's okay. What wasn't okay was when I aired my complaints on my blog. Yes, it's my blog, and yes I can say what I want. But, by taking it to my blog instead of just confronting the person who hurt me I was wrong.
Sometimes a friendship weathers stuff.
Like hurt feelings and anger and a fight being brought to a public forum.
And sometimes friends realize that taking a couple minutes to clear the air and understand where the other was coming from solves a lot more problems than ruining a friendship. I'm not going to rehash the argument - that's not fair. I took the post down for a reason. But, I will say this, what I read into an e-mail about breastfeeding was not intended. Period.
Sometimes someone is just worth forgiving and forgetting an argument for - and I think we can both agree about that right now.

8 comments:

AndreAnna said...

Glad to hear you didn't lose your friend - we need all the friends we can get on this ride.

petite gourmand said...

glad you cleared the air with your friend.

I just hope my mother-in-law never finds my blog.

Not Sad Anymore said...

Thanks Laural-that means a lot.

Multi-tasking Mommy said...

I'm so happy for you that you sorted it out. I felt so badly for you--it's not fun when you have a confrontation with a friend!

MandyPoo said...

As I've found out recently, pregnancy makes you read into stuff ALOT.

Karen MEG said...

I'm glad that you've ironed things out. Pregnancy and weddings - both happy, but yet stressful times! So it's great that your friendship perseveres - good friends are hard to find.

infectiouslaughter said...

Thoughts on the election results??

bubandpie said...

I'm glad you guys worked things out.