tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15924860.post8835282923508401478..comments2023-11-02T02:27:54.725-07:00Comments on Laural Dawn: The Time OutLaural Dawnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08459584652802529868noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15924860.post-17120933924483039332007-02-04T20:04:00.000-08:002007-02-04T20:04:00.000-08:00It's so easy to talk about child discipline in th...It's so easy to talk about child discipline in theory, when it's rhetorical. It's another thing entirely when it's been a long day, you're exhausted and at your wit's end. <br /><br />None of us are the perfect robot parents that can always remain perfectly calm and pulled together. I always wonder how my parents stayed so cool-headed with me. <br /><br />If you start counting and he stops at "2," I'd say you're doing a good job!Ruthiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15800371586600838226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15924860.post-35866729107947180192007-02-02T09:58:00.000-08:002007-02-02T09:58:00.000-08:00I remember watching the Cosby show and Clair Hucks...I remember watching the Cosby show and Clair Huckstable(sp?) got PI-ISSED at Vanessa because she lied, stole a car and her mom thought she was at a friends house that was on fire and on tv. So she RIPPED a strip off of her and I asked my mom (this is like 2 years ago) if Clair was right. And she said "Hell Yes."<br /><br />Because how is a child supposed to KNOW that their ACTIONS have CONSEQUENCES if you don't show them how they make you feel. LIke if you lovey dovied matt into a corner for time out he'll be bowled over with raw emotion at school and his future partners will EAT HIM ALIVE. It's called life - not sterility.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15924860.post-11547461411021536372007-02-01T15:59:00.000-08:002007-02-01T15:59:00.000-08:00You know what? Making a blanket statement about t...You know what? Making a blanket statement about time outs, or discipline in general is a lot like saying all diapers will catch the same amount of urine and not leak.<br /><br />Every kid is different. Every situation is different. Adaptive parenting: it's not just for breakfast anymore.<br /><br />We use time out sometimes. We use the calm voice on occasion, and the more forceful one too. Sometimes we use the nurturing, shrink down to her level and calmly explain. Sometimes we pick her up, lay her flat on her back (on something soft, and never aggressively) and hold her down while we speak to emphasize a) our dominant position (i.e. she has to listen to us) and b) the importance of what we're saying (i.e. don't lick the wall receptacle).<br /><br />It's your kid. You know them better, and you definitely know what works for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com